Trust Children.
Nothing could be more simple, or more difficult.
Difficult because to trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves, and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted.
John Holt from the book How Children Learn.

Trust is quite a complex issue and I am not an expert so here are just a few of my thoughts.
WE are born with a drive to connect with others. Feeling that we are trusted is interwined with developing other skills to build healthy relationships. 

Trust is when we think someone is able to do something. Trust is when we understand that discovering something for ourself builds confidence. Trust is the foundation for effective communication. When people listen to us we feel trust building.  When children have age appropriate boundaries they feel safe and learn to trust the care giver.

As a parent and teacher I see there is a balance between wanting to help children and showing them you can rely on them to work it out. Stepping back and observing children and giving them the time to wonder develops self-sufficiency and trust. It also requires trust. The environment is also important: we need to provide materials that are approriate for age and stage of development, materials that are open ended and can be explored.

And the point of this to us as teachers is that we don't always have to be in such a big hurry to correct children's mistakes. We can afford to give them time to notice and correct them themselves. And the more they do this, the better they will become at doing it, and the less they will need and depend on us to do it for them. John Holt in How Children Learn (A Classic in Child Development)

Relationship-building at Zero to Three

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody, is to trust them first. Ernest Hemingway.

P.S. I found it difficult to find good quality articles on Trust in early childhood education. If you know of any I would appreciate you posting them here. Thanks.



The Monko said...

This is a very important post. So many times I'm tempted to rush in, but when I take a beat and wait Goblin often gets there on his own whether its finding the right number on a puzzle or climbing up a ladder on his own. Being there to catch them when they fall is more important than pushing them up before they are ready. I am featuring this post on the Sunday Parenting Party this week (and pinning to the pinterest board).

Lesley @ early play said...

Thank you so much. It's great to get your feedback which I really appreciate.


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